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The Spotlight Effect – Why We Think Everyone Is Watching Us

 The Spotlight Effect – Why We Think Everyone Is Watching Us You know that moment when you trip over your own foot, spill a drink, or notice a stain on your shirt, and suddenly it feels like everyone around you saw it? That’s the spotlight effect in action. The spotlight effect is a psychological quirk where we assume people are paying way more attention to us than they actually are. Because we live inside our own heads, we notice every little thing we do, and it’s easy to imagine others are noticing too. But here’s the reality: most people are too busy worrying about themselves to remember your awkward laugh or your mismatched socks. What’s funny is that the things we think are huge, like stumbling on a word during a presentation or forgetting someone’s name, usually pass unnoticed, or are forgotten within minutes. The spotlight feels blinding to us, but to everyone else, it’s barely a flicker. Next time you catch yourself replaying a moment over and over, remind you...
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🎀💣 The “Barbenheimer” Marketing Phenomenon

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 🎀💣 The “Barbenheimer” Marketing Phenomenon How Barbie and Oppenheimer accidentally became the internet’s favorite power couple: Picture this: It’s July 21, 2023. Two movies drop on the exact same day. One is a pink, glittery, candy-colored comedy about a doll discovering herself. The other is a three-hour historical drama about the man who built the                                                                       atomic bomb. On paper? Total opposites. In reality? The greatest double feature of all time, and the internet lost it . On July 21, 2023, something rare happened in the cinema. Two completely opposite films released on the same day: Barbie , a bright, glitter-filled comedy about a doll discovering herself, and Oppenheimer , a serious three-hour historical drama about the creation of...
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Book Review: In Five Years by Rebecca Serle

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I n Five Years is not your typical love story and that’s exactly what makes it so unforgettable. Rebecca Serle masterfully blends romance, friendship, and a touch of magical realism in this emotionally rich novel that explores the unpredictability of life.  Book Review: In Five Years by Rebecca Serle The story follows Dannie Kohan, a corporate lawyer who has her life perfectly mapped out until she wakes up five years in the future, in a different apartment, beside a different man, and everything she thought she knew unravels. When she returns to the present, the vision haunts her, slowly reshaping the choices she makes and how she sees the people closest to her. What stands out in Serle’s writing is her ability to capture the complexity of relationships especially the deep, often underexplored bond between best friends. The novel is tender, surprising, and quietly devastating, with a twist that shifts it from a “dreamy love story” into something far more profound. Rather than an...
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The Art of Doing One Thing Well

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 The Art of Doing One Thing Well We live in a world that rewards multitasking, which is basically jumping between tabs, juggling ten projects, and constantly being “on.” For a long time, I thought that was the only way to keep up. But somewhere along the way, I started to feel scattered. Everything felt halfway done, halfway thought through. That’s when I stumbled into something quiet but powerful: the art of doing one thing well. It sounds simple. Obvious, even. But it’s surprisingly hard to practice. Doing one thing well means resisting the urge to rush. It means sitting with one task, one idea, one moment and giving it everything. Your full energy. Your full attention. It’s not about being slow; it’s about being present . And there’s a kind of satisfaction that only shows up when you give something your undivided focus. When I applied this to my own work: whether it was writing, designing, practising music, or even having a conversation: I noticed a difference. The outc...
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The Most Underrated Skill I’ve Learned This Year

 The Most Underrated Skill I’ve Learned This Year It took me a while to realise this, but the most underrated skill I’ve learned this year isn’t something flashy or technical: it’s listening . Not the surface-level kind where you nod along while thinking of your reply, but the kind that requires your full presence. True listening. I used to think that speaking up, making a point, and always having something clever to say was a sign of confidence. But I’ve learned that silence, paired with attention, often speaks louder. This shift didn’t happen all at once. It started in small moments like when I stayed quiet just a little longer during a conversation, or when I re-read a message instead of rushing to respond. I noticed how often people just want to feel understood. And I noticed how many misunderstandings in life happen only because we’re too eager to answer, defend, or prove. Listening changed that. It’s strange how such a basic thing, which is something we’re all capabl...
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The Science Behind Procrastination

 The Science Behind Procrastination It took me a really long time to ponder upon this, but here’s my take: Ever found yourself doing literally anything other than the thing you’re supposed to do? Cleaning your desk, checking old texts, suddenly remembering to organise your photos from 2020? Yep , thats classic procrastination. But here’s the twist: it’s not always about laziness or bad time management. There’s actual science behind why we put things off and it usually starts in the brain. At the center of your brain. There is something called the limbic system : the part of your brain that deals with emotions. It’s kind of impulsive and loves comfort. On the other hand, the prefrontal cortex : responsible for planning and decision-making which is more logical but quieter. So when a task feels boring, overwhelming, or uncertain, the emotional part of your brain basically wins the argument: “Let’s not do this right now.” Also, procrastination is often a way of avo...
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Why Consistency Beats Talent Every Time!

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 Why Consistency Beats Talent Every Time! I used to believe that talent was everything. That some people were just naturally good, faster, sharper, more creative, and the rest of us were simply trying to catch up. However, over time, I began to notice something different. The people who were growing, improving, and producing great work weren’t always the most talented. They were the most consistent. There was a time when I’d wait for a spark or some burst of motivation or a perfect idea. I thought quality came from waiting for the right moment. But the truth is, progress rarely shows up in fireworks. It’s quiet. It looks like showing up on a regular Tuesday when no one’s watching. The ones who got better were the ones who didn’t stop. Doing something every day, even in a small way builds a kind of internal rhythm. You stop worrying so much about whether it’s good. You just do the thing. You learn. You build trust with yourself. You become the kind of person who keeps goin...
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